Sticky Note Life

When I first set up this blog, I was separated and preparing to file for divorce.  One of the things I wanted to do with this space was to share the wins and lessons of my new life as a single parent and support others.

I’m a 90’s kid.  There was an episode of Beverly Hills, 90210 that aired in May of 1995.  Maybe it was because I was a single teenager at the time, maybe it was because I was going through some big life changes that year, maybe it was because I just needed to hear it …. but there was one scene that always stuck with me.  At the end, Kelly Taylor says: “I’ve made my choice, and I choose me.”

I have spent most of my life putting others first and sacrificing things I needed. Most recently, I stayed in my marriage longer than I should have for my children.  While I don’t regret that initial choice, the time finally came to choose myself and choose to give my children the absolute best and strongest version of myself.  That meant moving out and creating a safe and healthy home of my own. When you choose yourself, you can shine more of your beautiful light out into the world and give even more to those you love.

Jennie Garth (aka Kelly Taylor) also revisited this 1995 scene herself and re-embraced the message.  She started a clothing line and podcast around it, and I’m here for it.

To anyone reading this who needs to hear it:

If someone isn’t choosing you completely, let them go and choose yourself.

Do what brings out the best in you.

You are worthy of that, and you deserve nothing less.